Hi, ex rarely communicates. That's fine. Ex says the bare minimum with anything related to my children and school. Any updates regarding a medical appointment.
Until able to obtain a custody agreement through the Courts not much can do at the moment. Just have to schedule some time off of work to go to Court. Also, with my ex dropping some of the monthly medical bills for my children on me paying up to $500 a month (dwindling that down dropping one service for free service and space the other twice a month so be $100 to $200 a month of medical bills.) Next year with my ex dropping off my insurance that's another $200 a month in my pocket and a raise that's another $100 a month. Finally be able to decrease some overtime make some time to go to Court and pay the fees to file.
I digress going off on a tangent. Long story short upcoming holidays. Not too worried about the holidays as the holidays I am working are the days my ex regularly has the children.
However, ex and I both have a career where we are expected at work on various holidays throughout the year. I reached out to my ex three times (may of been two but do believe three times) since the end of July/begining of August about what holidays I am working and tried to inquire about the holidays they were working this year. That way would give me time if we were on the same holidays one of us could try to make a switch. Never responded to me.
So the only holiday that is an issue is the US holiday of Thanksgiving that falls on the day my ex normally has the children. Thanksgiving I am off but work Christmas. With my ex not telling me the holidays working means my ex has the children on Christmas feel automatically.
Should I tell my ex again or should I tell my ex that week when picking my children up already have them that my ex can pick them up Friday morning.
Thoughts and advice?