Seeing your ex move on

[malazzie]

Me and my husband have been separated for 11 months. He’s onto his second girlfriend. It kills me. And he makes sure he tells everyone how amazing they both were in bed so I hear about it. I feel physically sick. How long does it take for this to stop bothering me? I hate it. I still wake up everyday and feel gutted. I still hold onto hope he will come back. The sane part of me knows this can never happen or be okay but I just struggle to snap out of it! Any advice on how to let go? I feel I need to accept it in order to move forward. We were together since I was 17 I’m now 41. How long will it take to feel better? X

I think in the end it is a gradual process and each day you care less and less until you wake up one morning and feel free.

Sounds like he moved on very quickly so you’ve barely had any time to process the end of your marriage and life together - my mother always said those who talk about it most do it least - I wouldn’t believe a word he boasts about his sex kids with these women - anyone worth their salt listening to that tripe would see it for what it is - a load of bollocks spewed out to justify to himself and others how much happier he is

Who is it that is reporting back to you about their sex life? They are no friends of yours. Next time it comes up, firmly say, 'No thank you, I do not want/need to hear about it.' Repeat repeat repeat.

I agree with the above poster, it will gradually diminish over time, but you were together a long time and it will take some time for the pain to fade. No tips other than keep yourself busy, do what you enjoy, see friends and family and try to focus on the little good things in your life.

Time all with time.
One day he will become unimportant to you.
Your have memories but that wont bother you.
When he becomes unimportant to you you know you have definitely moved on.
Be nice to your self do nice things for you.

Or grab your passport and go away have some fun sleep around.
Do everything you couldn't do with him.
Be you again not the person he wanted to change you into.