How do you get over it???

[broken1980]

Someone tell me how you get over your husband of 10 years just throwing you away and moving on to a younger model? Just like that. Walking away from everything-2 children, a house, friends.
it’s been 6 months and it still hurts me every day. I don’t want him, that’s for sure, but he betrayed me. I just feel rubbish. Questioning what was wrong with me. Of course our marriage wasn’t perfect but I wouldn’t have walked away. He already had someone else lined up and was clearly building that relationship up behind the scenes (at work!). He does see the children regularly.

Honestly. I've not trusted a man since. 25 years being financially independent, raised my ds. Own my own home. Keep men at arms length.

Ok for dinner or a drink but nothing beyond that.

It's safer. Works for me.

It sounds a bit of a cliche but time really helps. I think it took me a year before I stopped feeling resentful and hurt and then another year until I felt I was truly over it.

What are you on about?

I’m so sorry.

I don’t know.

I’m not in your position, but married with young kids and have recently found out my husband cheated a few years ago.

He is grovelling for forgiveness, I don’t know if I can get over it.

so it has been me contemplating divorce.

but the thought of it is awful, and that seems to be what you are going through and I’m so very sorry.

I guess in your position the way I’d get through it is by remembering that this was his decision. You don’t have to try and live with any doubt and wrangling about whether or not you did the right thing. He did it, and now you just have to get on with it.

im so sorry he’s moved onto a younger model. It’s such a common and cliched thing for men to do. And I think very often they do come crawling back when they realise the grass isn’t greener. Hopefully by that time you will be stronger and won’t want him back.

6 months isn’t long. Be kind to yourself. I’m sure other posters with more relevant experience will have better advice, but all I can offer is the peace of mind you have that you don’t have to wonder “what if?” and if you did the right thing. Because it wasn’t you that did it.

Ignore this idiot