Help me make a good decision here

[Beachlovingirl]

my husband and I are agreed on getting a divorce.
we have settled the child custody and are both happy with the agreement.
I am going to buy my husband out of the house.
95% of this is coming from remortgaging to raise the equity and I can have the money whenever.
5% of this is coming from my parents and this is likely to be January this year.
my husband wants the 95% of the money now and has promised he will “attempt” to move out by Christmas - or worst case scenario he wants me to give him the final 5% in January and then give him an additional 6 weeks after this to move out after he’s had that final payment.
I just feel like I’m being taken for a mug here because I’m trying to be amicable.

what would you do?

he has said that if I give him the bulk that will enable him to move out so I like that, but then I also feel I’m beaming taken for a mug because he doesn’t have to.
my solicitor has said that legally he doesn’t have to move out until that final payment is made. Argh help me to do the right thing!

does sound like you are not working with a solicitor, get legal advice about the correct process to make the whole thing legally sound. have you gotten your financial order signed off from the court?
in theory, if you buy him out now and you are not legally divorced could he then get half the house you have already paid him out once you are financially divorcing? i’m saying this as you seem to be still married as you don't mention a solicitor or court order or financial order?

ah sorry you mentioned your solicitor in the last paragraph

definitely no to staying 6 weeks after final payment, he moves out once he receives the money - thats how selling houses or your share of a house works.

If your solicitor agrees I’d offer him 10k now to move out immediately with the rest of the money by January 🤷‍♀️

the reason I’m a bit in flux with this is because we’ve agreed the amount of equity I need to pay out but he’s said that if it takes too long for him to get the lions share of the money he will have the house re-valued and if it’s gone up then I’ll owe him more.

if I get the order signed then that’s it done. But I’m just feeling like I’m being blackmailed because if he’s not leaving until January I could have all the money earning interest for me.

why is he not signing the order?
and aren't house prices going down everywhere or is that just in the south?
he sounds being difficult and unpleasant on purpose, so sorry you have to go through this