Help what happens straight after

[Birminghammum]

Hi,
I'm unhappy in my marriage, he's a great guy, hasn't always been what I need but has been a good husband, we fundamentally aren't suited, I don't enjoy his company anymore and feel like I'm missing out on life.

He knows I'm not happy and we had a big chat 8 weeks ago about trying to fix things, he has been doing everything he can to try and win me back but my feelings haven't changed. We have three children together.
My worries are what happens when you tell them you want a divorce? We both technically have somewhere else to go, rooms at parents houses, but do you then start alternating weekends straight away? Does one of you immediately move out of the marital bed? He's going to be devastated and I don't know what to suggest, what's the kindest and best way for all of us to take the next steps.

I know everyone is different and different circumstances but I'm struggling with taking that last leap of telling him it's finally over and then what next.

Any advice from those who have been there appreciated.

If you’re resolute on divorce, then until you actually speak to a divorce solicitor, don’t move out. Don’t do anything until you’ve talked to one to understand the legal process. If after your chat with a solicitor, you still want to go ahead, then you tell him.

It’s not going to be easy, and even if you want it to be an amicable split, it’s going to come with some negative emotions on both sides.

And of course, you’ll have to tell your children eventually.