Ex wants ALL weekends

[Ano654]

I am getting divorced and moved out of the family home into rental due to him harassing me. DD has SEN and goes to a special school. The school is a long way from FMH and I moved closer (no point staying in the old area). LA provides no transport as it is not the nearest suitable school. Ex now insists I do all drop offs and pick ups (fine with me as it spares DD the long drive) but wants all weekends instead as the drive is too far for him midweek. I said no, happy for 50/50 as long as school weeks, holidays and weekends are shared equally. Him and inlaws making me out to be unreasonable. Am I? Surely, I also deserve some quality time with DD on weekends?

Do not agree to this. You will be the serious parent and daddy will be fun parent. Take it from one who knows from experience.

Stick to your guns. Alternative weekends only. If he wants to see her more he can pick her up from school and have her for the evening for dinner and drop her back after.s

Well that’s his problem not yours. I’d absolutely INSIST on shared weekends and holidays - no court would expect you to never have your child at the weekend, barmy!

If he can’t manage weekdays then he’ll have to pay you more maintenance and not do 50:50

A judge would never agree to it as you also need downtimes with your child.
absolutely say no

No Yanbu. Shared parenting means school runs, appts, after school clubs and juggling life. Not just weekends because they are easy.

Block his relatives, there's no reason for them to communicate with you.

Communicate with the man solely through a parenting app.

He does not get to insist anything. Inform him that you will not be giving up every weekend with your child.

I want to have sex with Tom Ellis. We don’t always get what we want.

Tell him if that's what he wants, he should go to court and apply for it. I bet the judge could do with a laugh.

Don't start it, don't trial it don't set the precedent. No court would agree to it. You are not unreasonable. Either he steps up and parent 50/50, or he has every other weekend and maybe one night for dinner or something.

This. You get the misery and chores. He gets the fun. Just no.

Absolutely do not agree. He likely wants 50/50 as less maintenance. This has to be equal 50/50 so you both have school days and weekends. Or one week on one week off. Ignore any family opinions they don’t matter. So what’s best for yourself and your child as you are no longer a team

My ex did her best to stop me from ever having a full weekend with my daughter (weekends for me with my daughter would only ever be fri/sat while hers were Friday through Tuesday) and the magistrates on court did not even allow this, let alone you never having weekend with your daughter. Defo don’t let him railroad you.

He can want whatever he likes, the question is what is best for your DD. Which is quality time with both parents.