So, I’ve been with my husband for 20 years, married for 10. We got together when I was a teenager. We have kids together. The last few years I feel like we’ve grown really far apart. We have sex about twice a year (even though I’ve spoken to him about it many many times, it’s always me initiating, I told him how it makes me feel, asked if he just doesn’t find me attractive anymore etc but he says he’s just too tired). We don’t hold hands, kiss or spend anytime together at all. All we do is work, look after the kids or watch tv. I’ve told him many times that I feel like our relationship is falling into roommates territory but he just doesn’t really answer. If we go on a date night it’s because I’ve organised it all (i had to organise my own Mother’s Day this year as he just hadn’t bothered to sort anything out). He’s a great guy and an amazing dad. The kids adore him, but I feel like I want more, I want someone who wants to talk to me, who listens to me (when I talk to him he just stares at his phone) and who fancies me tbh. I’m feeling like I really want a divorce, but am I being selfish as it’s nothing to do with how he is with the kids and he isn’t abusive at all I just want more in a relationship. Before you suggest I talk to him, I have a lot, I’ve even suggested counselling but he said no. What would you do?? Help!? Thank you