Hi wise Mumsnet folk, I could do with some advice as my stbxh appears to have turned into some kind of monster.
I feel I’m being done over by him. When he left in May, he asked that I transfer half the savings to him as I had set up savings accounts over the years which he had never been interested in doing (we were together 22.5 years, everything had always been fully treated as joint). I did this in good faith, splitting everything 50/50. He has now come to me with his financial settlement proposal and is indicating the same savings ought to be added up and split again. I don’t think this can be right surely? He has spent the entire summer gallivanting around with his affair partner, booked 4 holidays within 2 months, been on multiple weekends and weeks away and has severely depleted his half of the savings as he lost his job in July. However he received a massive pay off from his old company which he is keeping out of the settlement.
I would never expect any part of that and have previously stated any savings/debts accrued since the date of separation in May should be our own, which he seemed to agree with. But surely given I have already paid him his half, he can’t be correct in what he is now proposing?
Can anyone help please? He is not nice to deal with, his affair witch is such a money grabber and it’s clearly rubbing off on him.