How did you agree financial split?

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We’re in the early stages of separation and have agreed to divorce. It’s all quite amicable and we both have good intentions to keep it that way.

I have an hour with a solicitor as I want to establish what’s fair. I have a tendency to undersell myself.

Once I’ve done this, can we just sit down together and agree it and then get a solicitor to write a consent order? Is it as simple as that if we both agree?

I’ve looked at Amicable and am aware of divorce coaches but do we need that? Is it better to have a third party sense check it?

Thanks

We opened up excel and listed all our assets with the values. Then we started assigning items to a column for me and a column for him and kept an eye on the totals.

we didn’t do this in person. I made a draft. He sent back a counter draft and I was good with his adjustments. Our respective totals were the same as what I sent in my draft, he just swapped some items and adjust the split of some liquid funds. We were relatively young and it wasn’t particularly complicated.

we did end up needing to adjust things a bit because it turned out splitting my pension was much more complicated and expensive than I initially thought. My solicitor suggested I just buy my XH out for cash instead. It made things tighter for a couple of months but it wasn’t a big deal and the advice was sound. Plus it was better for XH to have extra cash so it worked better for him anyway.