Avoiding false hope

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Myself and, husband separated around 2 months ago, due to emotional affair on his part. No longer live together, he lives with his Dad currently.
We have a toddler and due 2nd baby in next few weeks. Things have been pretty formal between us, however feel like ice has been broken a bit recently and feels slightly less tense.
I, by no means, want to get back with him, however I am very mindful of how easily false hope could creep back in.

Anyone any words of wisdom/experience?

I find it less stressful when we can have pleasant enough interaction, and we really don't communicate outside of what is needed re kids.

My suggestion would be, take it day by day. I'm not saying you should take him back, but you have alot going on, especially with a new baby about to enter the mix.

Look after yourself, but give it time.

Make the most of the thaw - you’re going to need him to do his share of parenting so maybe give it time to settle and see how things are?
Difficult balance to get right but try not to entirely push him away whilst you’re hormonal, exhausted, probably still angry and feeling betrayed, yet have a big journey ahead of you that he needs to be with you on. No big decisions for the foreseeable, just focus on the here and now x

Thanks both for the advice. For the record he also shows no sign of wanting to be back with me, which feels like a plus and a negative.

I am trying to just focus on the practicalities of what need to be done, and be as civil as we can be, although he seems to struggle more with this. I think he would find it easier, albeit awkward, for us to have almost zero interaction as he is someone who avoids any emotion as much as possible. I definitely find it easier for there to be less animosity.

Lots to navigate in very the near future!