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Crossed the line as the neighbour

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boojee · 06/09/2025 22:41

I was assaulted by my ex partner due to discovery of an affair. (I’m not here to be told about how wrong I was because I understand it very well).
I was abused emotionally and treated like i don’t home the same rights in the house very often and that led to deep resentment and I tried to leave many times. But with 2 kids and low income i feel trapped.
The night I was assaulted in the bathroom, somebody called the police due to my screaming while I couldn’t get myself up. Lasted perhaps 30 seconds, but I had many bruises and I was so frightened.
Anyway the time has passed and my ex partner has been communicating a lot with our neighbour who he is friends with. First day after the incident I met the neighbours outside the house and I crying and told them what happened the night before and kinda blurted out about the length of the affair, Plus, I didn’t care they know because I wasn’t planning to get together with my ex and I was kind of relieved it’s over.
We kind of started working on things (which I didn’t expect ) and everything was okay for a little bit and I found out that the neighbour had told him about the length of affair, showed the footage of the video (they are cameras in their garden and front and side) where I’m standing in front of their semi detached house that morning talking about it, and also has shared the recording of the night when I was assaulted because they camera is in their back garden and could hear the audio off the beating moment. Now my ex partner denies that he was beating me up and that I was trying to chase him in the house to hold them back from leaving, which isn’t, even all I wanted was the to take my phone back. But then I was cornered in the bathroom and beaten up.

I find that the neighbour has crossed the line by trying to share all these things and videos of things that are about or relationship. Was it his place to do so ? I feel ffffffing violated.

I used to get on with our neighbours very well and we were really friendly. Can’t say that now.

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GoldDuster · 06/09/2025 22:44

You need some help to get away from your ex, you can contact Womens Aid who will help you. Focus on doing this, and getting yourself and your DC to a place of safety, not on what you're neighbour is or isn't doing. Not the point.

boojee · 06/09/2025 23:11

I am safe. The assault was one thing. In fact no abuse has happened since, but relationship was dead waaay before. Children are well cared and safe too. This id ultimately the relationship issue. I have contacted the women’s aid for accommodation to be able to move out and start over. It will be amicable as we have spoken and he has recognised the pain he caused to me emotionally. But not good enough to stay. We have broken each other

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