I told my husband of 4 years (together 14 years) that I didn't love him a few months ago and life has been hell since.
He understandably was very upset but his behaviour has got worse, he's angry one minute because he believes I'm not trying and tbh he's right. I don't want to try, he's been so awful that any part of me that wanted to save it had gone. He's got my children involved in arguments, bad mouths me to them, speaks to me awfully and then says its because he's scared because he loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me.
We are financially dependent on each other really but I have suggested ways I which we could split and still be present for the children, and even suggested we took turns staying elsewhere so the kids could stay at home but he is adamant he won't move out. I think we both know we'll have to sell the house but know this will bring financial hardship for us both.
My therapist and friends are telling me I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship, but I don't know if that's just being dramatic or if it's just that he's upset and doesn't want to lose our family?