First birthday since split

[TheHolyFlail]

It’s my birthday in 2 days. I’m not much of a birthday person at all, no big fuss, but this year I feel so fucking depressed.

I have my 2 DDs (8&13) for the day and they are so very excited and will be looking forward to making me breakfast in bed and giving me their gifts, which is lovely. But I just can’t shake feeling low and zapped of energy.

It’s going to be raining so the day out I had half planned is off the cards. I just can’t be bothered to do anything to celebrate. Not sure what I want from this post… Maybe just to write it down. This will be one of the last firsts I have to go through, so I think part of me just wants it to be over while the other part of me just wants to enjoy myself with my gorgeous girls. I know they deserve to have me happy and enjoying my day with them after all they have been through. I just feel like I’m sinking with this grey cloud over my head.

Hugs @TheHolyFlail, firsts are hard.

Bastard rain doesn't help!

Can you reframe it a bit as an opportunity? Yes it's the first birthday since separating, but whoop, it's your first birthday of freedom! And you get to celebrate it uninterrupted with your favourite people.

Did you end up compromising previous birthdays because of your ex? Can you create some new birthday traditions to suit you 3? Cake for breakfast / jimjams day / swan about / high tea / carpet picnic / you get to pick the film/ whatever?

For my first post split birthday, I took DC somewhere I'd always wanted to go but never got around to it and we ate things ex would have subtly disapproved of.... In the event, I didn't think of him at all, but beforehand the planning gave me some light schadenfreude imagining him doing a bit of a cat's bum scowl of disapproval!

Thank you @PancakesForElephants 😊

I don’t think I ever compromised, but I do love the idea of new traditions and doing things he may have not been totally on board with. So I will have a little think!

Hello fellow Virgo! ♍️ Yes firsts are very hard. I’m recently separated too and dreading my first birthday since we separated (in a few weeks) Ex to be fair was always good around my birthday and would make a fuss. I feel like it’s going to be hard on him too that day.

That’s lovely that your girls are very excited! The build up is harder I think than the actual event. I get it feels depressing, I feel it too and i normally love birthdays!

I plan to -

Have my nails done the day before my birthday.

Buy something new to wear on the day like a new skirt etc.

The weekend before, I am meeting up with my friends and we will have a breakfast/cake and a walk along the beach.

On the day my children will be in school and after school I will have a mini “party” with my parents/children in my new place.

I will take cake into work and meet a could have other friends for coffee and more cake ha ha.

Enjoy your birthday! 🎁