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Mid Life Crisis part 2

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phxx · 31/08/2025 02:01

10 years ago my DH told me was ‘unhappy’ and didn’t want to be with me. Our DC were 4 and 6. DH and I are the same age, both turning 40. He moved out, I found out about OW, filed for divorce. Got to Decree Nisi but he begged for a second chance, went to counselling etc and the divorce lapsed. Roll on 10 years and suddenly he is unhappy again, ‘can’t take me anymore’ and other gaslighting statements. The whole playbook reads just like The Script and a Mid Life Crisis. DH has been horrid, nit-picking on every little thing and telling everyone he meets how I get so angry (peri menopause anyone?) how my hair is always falling out everywhere and even telling the kids how they got perfect genes from him and I’m pre-diabetic. My instinct is to actually go through with the divorce this time as I really can’t trust him and suspect that if I stay with him this will happen again in 5 or 10 years time. Yes I do suspect OW or at least, he is on the lookout for one. Does anyone have experience of a DH that has had a mid life crisis/executed The Script and you have stayed with them? Did it work out, or is this really cause for divorce?

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YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 31/08/2025 06:04

Honestly get angry with him. Regardless of whether there’s another woman or not he’s being horrible to you. You can finish things for that. Take a step back, why would you want to work things out with such a person? Is it due to fear of the unknown of being single? I am sorry this is happening but it honestly sounds like you’d be better off without him.

phxx · 01/09/2025 02:49

Thanks YanTan I think I needed to hear that. I wanted to sanity check that I’m not ending a marriage without any concrete evidence of betrayal and/or because he’s going through a ‘silly stage’ but I’m coming to realise that this is not acceptable

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BookArt55 · 01/09/2025 09:25

Would you be happy for your child to be in this relationship? Nope. Get out. Teach your kids it is better to be single and happy, rather than in an unhealthy relationship.
You deserve more.
Stop letting him make all the choices. You aren't happy- more than enough reason to leave a relationship.

phxx · 01/09/2025 09:31

Really good point Book - have arranged a call with my solicitor for tomorrow Halo

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