Finances after divorce and he re marries

[Steffani87]

I am curious, we are coming up to the end of our divorce but financial order has not been agreed and I think this will be a long time coming.
He is desperate to marry his new partner and I know although our divorce will not be final until beginning of October and they will have to wait 28 days to marry due to registry but what if they get married before we have reached a final agreement?
What happens to the house? Is he still entitled to his share or is he automatically taken off the mortgage?
Any help as I'm curious as I feel like they are in a rush to get the divorce out of the way and he has done every thing in the divorce to the date, but not in a rush for the financial order to be agreed.

He won’t get his decree absolute until the financial order is done. And you have to show the decree absolute to the register office before you can book your wedding.

Sorry — edited to say that’s how it worked when I got divorced in 2007. I don’t know if that’s changed. But in my day 👵 you only got decree absolute once the consent orders were in.

Who filed the petition? I seem to recall that if it was you, he would need to make an application to the Court if he wanted to apply for the Absolute. And he would have to serve a copy on you. You could validly object because finances haven’t been resolved.

What is the financial position of you, your ‘ex’ and his new partner? Who is in the stronger position.

You can get your absolute ahead of order. He’d be mad to

if he re marries he’ll lose his claim to the marital assets ( I think can still claim
pensions). You’d be able to claim from him but he not you. So in some respects in your interests although would be morally poor.

I don’t think he’d sutomybevremobed from morthsge. It would get messy and you should be pushing him to sort finances ahead or marrying - as should his partner !

Not the case any more.

He'd be really silly to get remarried without a consent order in place OP

He filed so he will file for the absolute and he did the conditional order bang on date

So does that mean he loses his share to the house?

The thing is they are so desperate to be a little family they got together three weeks after separation, they got engaged four weeks later, she changed her name by deed poll to his and they moved in within a month after getting engaged and as soon as the conditional order came through she posted on social media about the countdown has begun for their wedding.

I am living in the house and when we did the form E initially he lied, he hid his pension, he lied about living with her, he lied about having other accounts and soon as the questionnaires came through he changed his mind and asked for a buyout which is less than 50% of his share. He earns more than me and has the potential to earn more plus he now has a partner to share all costs. I have the three children and have worked part time until they were born.

None of those reasons mean he should lose his share

what his share should be will be an outcome of all those factors

Can you afford to pay the whole mortgage and bills on the house? While his name might be on it still if he remarries and this is not sorted, it’s unlikely he’d continue to pay it. If

You should ensure all finances are sorted and severed appropriately before absolute. It’s in both your interests to do so

Recently divorced. The divorce and the financial order were separate. At my solicitor’s advice, she wouldn’t ‘finish’ the divorce proceedings until he had agreed/signed and sealed the financial order. It was a difficult divorce from a difficult man. Without that advice I wouldn’t have got him to agree the financial order.

Gosh. He lied about all that financial stuff and no repercussions. What a great guy he sounds.

Ask your solicitor for advice on this. That’s going to be the most reliable source, not randoms on the internet.

He/they sound awful! I’m sure you already know this deep down, but I don’t believe they got together 3 weeks after you separated. For that alone, I would be playing hardball on the financials, and if at all possible delaying the divorce until the financials are sorted. If they are so desperate to be married, maybe it gives you leverage to get a better deal for yourself.

Sending hugs, it sounds like you’ve been put through the wringer by these horrible people!