We had a 50/50 childcare arenagement in place until a month ago. DD12 now wants to live with me full time and has been staying. A long story but she has her reasons (her Dad swearing at her & calling her names, temper, not suitable living arrangements etc).
Whilst I support her decision, and ex is saying he does too, she is absolutely refusing to speak with him on the phone or meet. She has barely said two words to him by text.
I don’t know how to handle this. I think a relationship with her Dad is important. I don’t think it is healthy to have no contact. But equally, I can’t force her and if I suggest going for a walk etc with him, calling him etc she absolutely refuses. She is obviously upset by his behaviour. She kept her true feelings hidden for so long and I think she is scared about what he will say to her if they meet. She could just have space but I don’t know if that’s going to help / make matters worse.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and know the best way to approach it?