Life after separation

[MamaBear303]

Are there any members who grew up with with parents who separated and moved very far?

How did this relationship and dynamic work between you parents? Did you have any resentment for the parent that moved away?

long story short - me and my husband are most likely going to separate as I think e reached a point where we can’t carry on but I would prefer to move back in with my parents at least for a while…this means moving from UK to Slovakia - our eldest is 2y and youngest is 3m so I don’t think uprooting them would have a detrimental effect on them right now however I’m not sure how it would work down the line when they’re older…I could try and stay in the area but I’d have no support system here so I don’t think that would be best for my own mental health plus it would be extremely difficult financially

I'd check OP first that you can move them to another country - usually you need the other parents consent.
I don't know about resentment but you might find when they're older that they want to move to be with the other parent, it's a possibility.

Yes I know he’ll need to give me his full consent and sign some legal paperwork to let me move

and yes my other worry is that when they’re older they’ll want to move to be with their dad

I think it’s a terrible idea personally.

children flourish more when their dad is present and involved. Moving so far makes that impossible

unless he’s violent or anything I really disagree with children being separated from either parent and if I was him I 100% would not agree

Thank you!

I think you’re right and he should be present and involved

but at the same time all advice I’ve been given is to not stay in a marriage that doesn’t work because of the kids as that can be more damaging to them

I agree
but that doesn’t mean running off hundreds of miles away

it means staying put ( where you are now) and working on co parenting plan locally that allows both parents to be present !

yiu decided to have children with a man in the uk. Imo that now means staying in this country