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Divorce/separation

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how do I evict my ex-husband as soon as possible

17 replies

pointlessfish · 23/08/2025 10:14

Horrible divorce, ex-h dragged it out for many years and wasted a lot of money on our combined solicitor's costs as he had to be court ordered to do anything required to make progress with the divorce process.

I now have debt as a result of the divorce and despite being awarded the family home whereas he was awarded another property we owned, in the city where he works, he will not move out of my house. The forms transferring ownership shares such that we each now own a property to live in have been signed off but he will not communicate in any way and will not move out.

My family helped me move a fair share of our chattels into his house (I've been given a lot of second hand furniture by friends and relatives to replace that stuff) along with most of his personal belongings but he still comes home here every night, after work, sleeps here in the spare bedroom so our teenage kids are sharing a room to accommodate that, uses the bathroom, makes his meals, watches TV in the spare room etc and now I'm faced with him being here for the entire bank holiday weekend.

To my mind he is trespassing, I really can't afford to accrue any more solicitors' bills debt. He dashes to the bathroom and locks himself in or to the spare room and leans against the door so can't get in if I try to talk to him. It's like he's refusing to accept the outcome of the court financial hearing and the legal transactions done since then to sort out separate ownership.

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CopperWhite · 23/08/2025 10:17

I have no idea what the right advice is but that sounds bloody awful. I think in your position I’d ask the police for advice, or maybe a private bailiff.

ExplodingCarrots · 23/08/2025 10:18

Police and change the locks . It's the only way . If your paper work states the house is yours then police can remove him . Move your children into their own rooms so he has no room .

TwoBlueFish · 23/08/2025 10:20

Change the locks so he can’t come back there. If he then causes a scene phone the police.

ExplodingCarrots · 23/08/2025 10:20

I'd also involve the police because the fact he hasn't moved on and is still coming home is really unnerving . Sorry you're going through this op .

RogerR4bbit · 23/08/2025 10:20

Call the police, you have a man who has moved himself into your home without your permission.

Get him escorted off the premises, change the locks and get rid of him.

Cosmosforbreakfast · 23/08/2025 10:46

When he goes out, put his stuff in bin bags, put it on the doorstep then change the locks. If he tries to get in, phone Police. He's doing this to control you.

Fragmentedbrain · 23/08/2025 10:48

Report to the police but go heavy on the domestic abuse side they won't get involved with eviction stuff

MissMoneyFairy · 23/08/2025 10:51

Call the police, they can remove him, change the locks and ask their advice about personal safety, alarms and security.

MissMoneyFairy · 23/08/2025 10:52

Remove the bathroom lock and put a padlock on the spare room from the outside with any of his belongings in a binbag.

rwalker · 23/08/2025 10:57

You need proper legal advice

he’s could go down the route of squatters rights

onceuponatimeinneverland · 23/08/2025 11:00

Change the locks and don't let him in. Tell your teenagers not to let him in.

theiblis · 23/08/2025 11:08

REALLY!!! Really triggered me this did, I was in a very similar situation. I’m completely incensed he’s behaving like a three year old who hasn’t got their own way. Very simple solution, book a day off work and a locksmith, have the locks changed, have your kids stay elsewhere that night in case of fall out when he gets back from work, do not engage with any conversation, be prepared to call the police.

thismummydrinksgin · 23/08/2025 11:11

Change the locks while he is out?

pointlessfish · 12/01/2026 17:48

Just to update, I eventually notified him that the locks were being changed at "my" house whilst he was at work (an hour away), having that morning moved his personal belongings to the house he was allocated in the divorce and putting my keys to that property through the letterbox there. I also let him know that I'd been advised to call the police if he came back to what was legally "my" house.

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anotheruser76326 · 12/01/2026 17:58

Did he leave quietly?

Potterylady13 · 12/01/2026 17:58

Good news - let’s hope he stays away .

pointlessfish · 12/01/2026 21:16

Yes, he took it without getting in touch or coming back to what is now "my" home.

It's been very peaceful here since and Christmas was a happy and restful period for the first time in many years.

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