Daughters first holiday with dad since seperation

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Hi everyone
think I just need a bit of moral support. Daughter 13 has gone on holidays with her dad for two weeks for the first time since our seperation and I’m really struggling 😔
I miss her so much and can’t help but have horrible thoughts of her loving her dad more than me and that she just has a better time with him etc. Until our settlement comes through I can’t afford to take her away so I feel guilty and really sad. I’ve messaged her but only get very short answers which I guess is just her being a teenager but it makes me anxious ( I do struggle with anxiety anyway)
can anyone just give me a little hand hold 😥

I understand how you feel - when I first separated from my daughter's dad I also worried about this.

But I am her mom and she will never love him "more" than me - she loves us both, but differently. And I am certain this is the same for you OP.

And a child's love isn't based on the money we spend on them. I am much poorer than my daughter's dad and can't give her half the things he can, so we just do different things.

Could you afford to take her camping, OP? That can be just as much fun as a foreign holiday, I promise you.

This will get better. X

Thankyou so much for this. It’s hitting very hard because I am in exactly the same position. He will always earn an awful lot more than me, and so our time together won’t consist of her having loads spent on her..which I wouldn’t want to anyway. I want to be grounded as she grows but my goodness it’s hard.
I think once the settlement comes through I will be able to think a bit clearer about what I can afford. I certainly could go camping and think it would be lovely!
It’s so very hard isn’t it. Just a total fear of going it alone, not being good enough..and just general pain of the split xx