We are divorced 1 year and separated for 3 before that. My ex still lives back with his parents and also has a GF he stays with a few days week (both within 10 miles of our home). When we split he insisted he could only have the 2 kids (one primary, one secondary age) overnight for one day a week. He refuses to rent although he can afford to. I agreed that access arrangement as I thought it would be temporary but four years later, here we are. Now I’ve asked him to do extra days in the holidays — he has had them for 2 extra nights in the whole six weeks.
Is this normal? Should I demand he has them for 2 nights? Can I do that!? Should he be paying more maintenance for only doing 1 night instead of 2? We haven’t been through the CSA, always agreed a figure (pretty low one as I earn more) and he pays every month.
But I can’t help feel he doesn’t give a damn about the kids as he just isn’t interested in increasing his contact with them or getting his own home to facilitate that.