Ex keeps changing Doctor appointmenta

[ILikePizza2025]

Hi, in the US still going through the Court process. Eventually hope I can get in the custody agreement my ex can't change appointments to day's she has the children and same for me.

I scheduled an appointment for my son for physical therapy. Felt weird they didn't call to confirm appointment for tomorrow. Sono called the appointment was changed to a day my ex has the children. So I changed it to a day I am off.

Going to message my ex tomorrow appointment is X day looks like the Office had it scheduled on a different day. Any advice if my ex starts questioning me why I changed the appointment to avoid setting myself up?

Urgh, what a fucking palaver - Grow up the pair of you

Your both using the kids as weapons. Please stop. Poor children

I really don't know if my ex did or not. I am 95% she did. She basically was going to have me show up and be no appointment. I am more the grown up giving her heads up no appointment next week.

If she changes it then let her. I am confident she did be the 3rd time and 3rd time not telling me the kiddos had any medical appointment.

Stop playing games. You keep joining in which isn't putting the kids first, you're both as bad as each other. You both want to attend the appointments so you can't always have it on your day off work either. Let her book it on her day, then show up. Don't engage in an argument.

Poor kids. Having to be so stuck in the middle that physical therapy is even an issue. Absolute madness. Neither parent is putting the kids first.

Technically I made the appointment. Made the appointment on the day I had the children and planned to make the appointments going forward on the day I had the children. Planned not to tell my ex because if I tell her about any appointments, she changes them to the time she has the children. Had a suspicious feeling my ex had changed the appointment when I didn't receive a confirmation call, and a few weeks ago, the PCP physician sent a message out explaining my child had an appointment on the day I had originally scheduled the appointment. So I called to confirm the appointment and it was on a different day than what I originally scheduled. Now it could have been a clerical issue on the office end, we won't know. Will see if it was my ex when I explain our child didn't have therapy because they made a clerical error put our child on X day. If my ex changes the appointment to a time when she is off, that's confirmation, and I will let it be. Will drop a letter off at the office explaining everything I've been doing with my child for the last eight weeks, getting them to the current point they are at.

You've been told in every post that your coparenting communication is quite simply... awful. You have no right to make a medical appointment and not inform the other parent. You are in the wrong. Ideally if this is a regular appointment then this one should fall in your time, the next in hers. You have no right to exclude her. Just as she has no right to exclude you.

Stop playing tit for tat. Start actually putting the kids first.

But yet again you don't listen to feedback, you think you're right and in doing so you are failing your kids. I feel really bad for the kids having to deal with this shitshow.

If I tell my ex she changes it. Not by choice. It's a necessity for survival. Learned if I tell my ex she changes it. I plan to eventually have a Court order that both of us can't change medical appointments only the Office or the parent that made the appointments.

Ex denied changing the appointment so will never know. Made them aware see if they change the appointment or not. Could of been super smooth divorce.

I communicated. Updated my ex on appointments. Talked about custody schedule. Talked about extracurricular activities. School. So forth my ex does none of that.