My ex kids

[Denisa2024]

I’m a 35-year-old woman who just married a man with 2 kids from his previous marriage.
Fast forward they live with their mum and their new family and their little sister she has with the new man.

She wanted out and to mention she has no job and never has, lives off men and pesters my now husband for money all the time.
He pays a lot more than he should.
After I came into the scene I got the impression she regrets, she’s jealous and now is best friend his brother wife.
It’s bothering me to be honest.

His children are coming every 2 weeks In visit, and I can tell one of them in particularly is jealous on the new born, they never come to greet the baby when they come and show no interest for any interaction.
They are 11 and 13.
A day before my baby birthday they left and they knew is baby birthday as we have talked about it but they didn’t bother sending a text with happy birthday next day.
Neither his brother or his wife.

I have so many negative feelings since I have got married and I sometimes regret the
marriage.
Could someone give me an advice or anybody relates to.

I can’t really understand your post to be honest

Neither can I.

But I'll give it a go.

The OP has had a baby (I think) and if annoyed with her DSC for not sending a text to wish the baby happy birthday.

This is bonkers because the baby won't be able to read it.

The OP is also annoyed because the older DSC are not interested in the baby. @Denisa2024 I'm not surprised, as they're 11 and 13. Why would they be interested in a baby?

Finally (I think) the OP resents the fact that her husband pays maintenance to his ex for the DSC.

@Denisa2024 get over it. Of course your husband should pay for his previous children.

If you split up with him you'd expect maintenance for your baby.

You're jealous, but you knew he had children before you married him.

You don't like your husband's children, because you think they are jealous of your baby and you think he pays their mother too much for their care? (It's hard to understand what you mean)

What are you and DH doing to help the kids adjust to the new baby that lives with dad 24/7 while they don’t? Why would kids text you on your birthday? Your post doesn’t make total sense but it sounds like you don’t like your husbands kids, which is stupid when you’ve just given birth to their sibling.

Get over it OP. You are being ridiculous.

So you're angry because your husband's ex has remained friends with her SIL.
You think he pays too much to support his children.
You think his ex wants him back.
You're angry because his 11 and 13 year olds do what? Have no interest in a baby? Come over once every two weeks and didn't stay for the babies birthday?

Honestly, this is a you problem. You can't change or control the actions of the ex or the children. You can change and co trol your own.
Tweens a d teens don't care about babies.
You're a adult, act like one.
Spend time building better relationships and these things would likely get better.

Your DH's children have had to put up with a new baby from their mother's new relationship if I understand correctly. Most likely they couldn't care less about that baby (big age difference, just landed in their lives, their lives have already been turned upside down because the parents split up).
Then your baby comes along. Another baby who has nothing to do with them, they barely see you, don't care about you, why should they care about this other new baby. The baby has nothing to do with them as far as they're concerned.
Added to this, babies are noisy and demanding and they take precedence over everyone else. Not much for teens/teenagers to be excited about in the current setup.
OP, forget about the step children's reaction to your baby. They're not interested.

I would expect the kids to not be interested in your baby. They've had a lot of upset in their short lives and now their father is choosing to live with a new kid full time and they are relegated to occasional visitors, and their mother has also got a new kid.

If your husband is unhappy about paying the mother to raise his kids, he should be parenting them at least 50% of the time.

Perfect post....unfortunately you do sound jealous....your partner has two older children....that need him and of course...he also has to pay his ex child support....that both his ex and you both have had other children should not mean he no longer has them xx gosh I don't understand people who think that they are more important than stepchildren......

He pays a lot more than he should.
do you mean he pays more than the minimum amount legally required?
or are you saying he pays well over half of what it costs to keep the children in a good lifestyle (clothing, food, rent, bills, hobbies, childcare Inc losses the ex is incurring if she can’t work as much)

now is best friend his brother wife.
so you’re unhappy she is keeping in touch with his children’s aunt and uncle, and helping facilitate a relationship with the children’s relatives?

and now you’re surprised that the children are jealous of a baby who gets to live with their dad, when they only see him every 2 weeks?
does your baby txt? Will they know their siblings haven’t text them? The lack of txt seems like a non issue to me, when there’s clearly much bigger issues like why your dh isn’t building a better relationship with his dc, or helping them feel comfortable with their new sibling and build a bond with them.