Is it a weird idea to look after DC in ex house?

[UnlimitedDoh]

Logistically to make it easier as the house is by DC friends, school etc. As a one off? Does anyone do this? Is it too weird? Ex suggested that we could do that as a one off and DC1 reacted badly and got upset saying it’s not my house anymore and it would be too weird knowing that we are not together anymore. We effed up in a big way and I feel so bad that we upset DC 😢

Of course we wouldn’t force that on him 😔

Unusual reaction from Ds

i Think it depends on your relationship with ex and as parents. I know many people who would be fine with this ( myself included) but also some who would say no way

Ex has been territorial about the family home and would loudly state “it’s my house now” or “You can’t be doing stuff like that, it’s my house now” when we were still living together (separated) DC probably overheard and it has had an influence. Don’t know what MIL might have been saying either. DC said nobody does that and can I name one person that does. I won’t force myself into the house if he’s uncomfortable.

My eldest gets very very anxious and upset if my ex husband looks after them in our house (former marital home) so I’ve had to put a stop to it and any contact (not that there is much) is outside the home now

the home is their safe space and constant and we’ve made a life for ourselves in the house without him in and she finds it very upsetting and unsettling if he spends any amount of time at the house visiting

I would accept your child’s wishes here - they are trying to exert some control over their lives in a situation that you/their dad have put them in