Splitting furniture or buying new

[Babysteps123]

Hello, my stbx partner (not married) and I are still in our jointly owned home but he is buying me out and I should be moving into my new place within the next month or so. Naturally, we have lots of jointly owned furniture and appliances, and it doesn't seem fair that just because I'm moving I should start from scratch, but I don't know what IS fair when deciding how to split it. Does anyone have experience that they can share? We have a child so we are trying really hard to keep things amicable and that's also a reason I don't want to just strip the place. I will take furniture that belongs to me and predates the relationship but it's the other stuff I'm not sure about. Like, who gets to keep the hoover?!

would it be worthwhile making a list of everything you'll need, in your new home, and attributing a financial value to it?

When he buys you out he gives you half the cost of household items and you can buy all shiny new things.

As an aside, will he need a hoover, did indeed, he ever hoover? 😉

As above. But if he can't/won't give you half the value just go through your list taking it in turns to choose things. Don't forget to factor in removals costs for you in a way that’s fair.

Thank you for both replies. We have already agreed the buy-out price just based on the equity in the house and that is already with the solicitors, so this would need to be a separate agreement and I suspect his attitude will be that I am money-grabbing if I want more. I'll definitely try that first, but otherwise the going through the list and choosing things option seems to be a good back-up.

Weirdly he likes hoovering. It's just about the only chore he has ever done without a direct request from me! (He would absolutely hoover around all the mess he leaves lying around the place though...)

I would start with what you would like to take. Make a list. Then negotiate from there.
In my experience there’s not too much disagreement as stuff can be pretty cheap. It’s housing that costs!
The big expenses are appliances and electronics. Furniture can be managed without or bought second hand.

Go round together and take turns at choosing. He might want the sofa, you choose the dining table and chairs etc