ex trying to say I was abusive in court to get more money

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Anyone have any experience of this? It's surely going to backfire on him, isn't it?

What has he claimed you have done and what is the truth of the matter?

Abuse doesn't equal more money.

It won’t help him. Assuming that you’re in the UK, divorce is no fault and there’s no financial penalty for why you divorce. What I mean is in the US, there are states where you can be fined for adultery (you can collect from both spouse and affair partner) but there’s nothing similar here.

How would it get him more money? Where are you based?

He's claiming that I have been emotionally financially and physically abusive throughout our marriage. He's been going around telling everybody this.

It's not true and I am the one who has had support from a domestic abuse charity since we split up.

Sorry I should have said I'm in the UK

more money in what sense?

He has said that he is looking forward to me standing up in court and denying my abuse.

From I've read it won't get him anymore money, but I think he's doing it to make me look bad.

Most never get to court, at least not in person.
Stupid threat that's likely to go nowhere.

Is he getting confused with going to court for attempted murder?
Let him carry on with this deluded fantasy while you concentrate on grey rock and the best legal advice you can get. Don't agree to mediation where he is in the room. Sorry, can't recall the name of the seperate rooms mediation.

In my divorce the barristers did the talking in the one brief court session.

@2catsandhappy that made me laugh! Yes I do think he thinks he's in some sort of courtroom drama like he's seen on the TV.

My solicitor put us forward for mediation and I went to the assessment meeting, it seemed to go okay but then I had an email from them saying that we weren't suitable for mediation. I'm guessing that he told them that I was abusive.

I have a court date.

It could be either he said you were abusive OR they could see he was and wouldn’t engage in the process.