Question about filing for divorce onlin

[shrewdasserpentsinnocentasdoves]

Can someone please tell me what happens directly after I file for divorce online.
How long is the delay between me submitting the online form and my husband finding out? We are separated for over 18 months, I want to file for divorce and feel I should tell him myself rather than have him just get served divorce papers. But I've also got a lot going on at the moment and don't want to create extra stress of a difficult conversation.

he has to agree to that initial form, I think.
Marriage is a legal contract and very hard to break the contract without his consent.
Do you think he'd agree to a mediator initially to "plan the way forward" but actually eventually "to make this divorce as painfree as possible"

This is not correct, you don't need both partners agreement to get a divorce.

I am going to file for divorce, I just want to know the timescales between me applying online and him finding out that I've done that.

@shrewdasserpentsinnocentasdoves It was same day in my case. I got the email to say applied, he got an email to say I''ve applied, and he clicked the link and agreed - all same day. Post received from HMCTS about 10 days later with paper copies of application.

You can get divorced without dividing the assets and liabilities which is your choice. He has to consent to the asset division, that is what I was thinking about, I suppose.

Getting divorced without an agreement on dividing the assets and debts and renouncing rights to the assets of the other one is said to be very risky.

Thanks that makes sense now. I'm not planning to get divorced without a financial order. I am planning to go through that whole process of mediation etc. in due course. I just want to know how long until he finds out I've set the ball rolling, which sounds like it is the same day so I will hold fire for a bit.

Thanks to all for advice