My ex and I have two kids. We were very young when they were born. Kids are now 15 and 11. My experience as a young mum was that i was very much alone. Ex never came to any prenatal classes/ultrasounds/checkups. Once born I did all the feeds, nappies, cooking, cleaning. Once kids were a bit older we went on play dates, bike rides, walks etc without him as he never had any interest. I worked nights and I always had dinner done, kids bathed and ready for bed before I left the house. I can't remember ever doing anything as a family, even tho I begged. I very much was a single mum but married.
He was derogative towards me, I always stayed fit and healthy but would call me s#it tits after I breastfed (one thing exercise can't really change) I get so mad remembering what I put up with.
Fast forward he eventually left me for an affair partner. This was when our kids were 7 and 11.
His new partner has just had their first baby girl and the kids have told me what's been happening and I'm hearing how involved He is with the new baby..caring, cooking, cleaning etc. They tell me how he is so caring towards her and baby which she deserves but it also stings a bit.
I can not stop thinking about it and how i feel so ripped off. I'm not jealous as I don't want a new baby not do i want him, but I am feeling a lot of resentment. Has anyone else gone through this?
Doesn't help she was also the affair partner.
I have a wonderful new man in my life, but we dont want more kids. So i guess I'm just angry that I'll never experience what it's like to have a hands on dad, yet now he is one.