Selling marital home

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Found out very recently my long term husband is leaving me, effectively for someone else, whilst im pregnant and have a toddler.
It is becoming apparent we are going to have to sell our home sooner rather than later as If not all the money I have saved up for my mat leave I would need to use to pay my share of bills and then sell anyway, effectively leaving me with nothing at the end.
How did others get their head around this? It feels like such massive life changing decisions are being made for me and I can't do anything about it.

You shouldn’t be selling now
yiu need to seek legal advice and apply for maintenance pending suit if necessary
many couples live together while divorcing to avoid costs of another property. Whatever was agreed prior to him leaving needs to stand in terms of money over the year or so

if that means he crashes at his parents or is skint, so be it

slow it down. Your only concern right now needs to be looking after your toddler and soon to be newborn

the house can be sold in a year or so - it will take longer than that to get divorce and financial settlement drawn up

We currently split the bills which he is happy to continue to do, however for every month I stay here once I start mat leave that's a month of savings down so it's not in my best interest to keep the house when I will no longer be getting paid

If he’s moving out, look at universal credit. If you’re on Mat pay you’ll probably be entitled to something that could cover your bills and then you can live off of what you saved up for mat leave… also claim CMS, if he isn’t willing to stand by what you had agreed in terms of financing maternity leave. I was in a very, very similar situation to you, I’m sorry you’re going through this now.

He’ll need to step up his contribution
he must realise this as you don’t have an income

what does he earn ?

Ill have a look at UC and reducing council tax to see how that helps. Unfortunately I was contributing 95% of finances for my maternity and he isn't in a position to pay much more than his share of the bills.

so nothing has really changed from
your original plan then re finances? You’ll fund the mortgage /bills from savings as you would have done while on maternity and he continues to pay his share

you use that time to

progress divorce
work agreeing financial separation
agree housing ( and housing needs if you both)
agree child access arrangements

recover from giving birth and the emotional fallout of marriage breakdown

Yeah except before he decided to leave if I was left with no savings after mat leave it wouldn't matter as much, and he would have been here to help with baby and toddler during the night. Now any savings I have ill need for a deposit and I don't know what we will do the weeks after baby is born in terms of where he will be/what support he will offer.