A thread for newly separated single parents

[YellowStarsintheSky]

Hello, I’m creating this thread for those recently separated and navigating co-parenting/getting used to a new home/emotional upheaval and difficult early days. Hope there are some parents out there and hopefully we can all support each other in these strange times. It would be nice for us all to support each other. 💕

I’m very newly separated and have just moved into my new home. 🏠

Can I please join in?

miso sorry to hear so many of us are struggling.

Stbx left me in April. Two dc 9 and 11. They live with me and refuse to have overnights with their dad. Today however they left with him for their grandparents house for 10 days. I feel so alone in my house.

I’ll join. I’m living in complete turmoil.

We are both still in marital home, can apply for the conditional order later this month, then sort finances and list the home for sale. But the difficulty is that I am waiting to hear if I’m being made redundant, marital home is mid renovation and I also need to sell a BTL before either of us can move on. So when I find out about job I’ve then got 1 house to finish and 2 properties to sell as well as keep my sanity. If I have no job then I can’t do anything until I do as risk making myself homeless (can’t get a new mortgage or rent if unemployed).

Fortunately we are relatively “amicable” and already agree finances (just hope the judge does). We have 1 DD almost 6 and will be 50/50 custody. To be fair he is very hands on now and whilst not quite 50/50 I have no worries about him picking that up.

We have to leave our dream home which is the hardest bit for me. I used to love living alone though so I’m actually quite excited about that part. It’s just the next 12 months I am dreading as suspect the house selling is going to take absolutely ages 😬😬😬

For now we only speak when strictly necessary and when DD in bed we don’t stay in the same room. We’ve split the school hols 50/50 so that makes it easier to keep out of each other’s way.

I feel like I am existing instead of living though.

Hi all, just wondering how everyone was getting on? Nothing has changed drastically in my life and the divorce - currently in the middle of completing Form E 🤯🫣 to get the financial order completed.
Stbexh took DS away on holiday last week. They were only gone for 3 nights. The first day they left I felt empty and didn't know what to do with myself but just kept busy and it was fine.

Struggling. Ex asked for a divorce 20 to 30 times. Seperated 3 times. Surprised me by moving out. Survived the Summer. With my oldest starting school this week felt rushed and short. I just miss my children a lot at the moment. See them at the end of the week. Just lot of pain at the moment. My ex isn't the best co-parent. Won't talk or communicate. Won't discuss custody schedules. Rejects custody proposal's. Won't let me take my children to appointments. Secretly cancels medical appointments. Won't discuss extracurriculars and takes away the extracurriculars been doing with my children (well one of the children). Just feel numb.