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Divorce/separation

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Dad stopped seeing his boys and now I'm struggling

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JayneB87 · 23/07/2025 12:54

Hi, I separated from my emotionally abusive husband 18 months ago. Since he left, he lost his very well paid job and moved in with his parents. In spring, his parents kicked him out and called the police as he was abusive towards them. He is now homeless and lost his car. Before all of this, he looked after our two boys for two nights a week but he has now cut off all contact and has blocked them from his phone. I have a stressful leadership job and I'm finding things incredibly difficult, in particular work and caring for the children full time. There is so much guilt and I have constant anxiety. I feel like I'm not winning in any aspect of my life. I'm fearful ill lose my job due to poor performance and I'm worried about the boys. I'm not sure why I'm writing this. I wonder if anyone else has been through a similar situation.

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cheeseismydownfall · 23/07/2025 12:57

I'm really sorry OP, that sounds very difficult. What is your relationship like with his parents, could they provide you with any support? I appreciate you probably would have mentioned this if it was an option though.

grumpyoldeyeore · 23/07/2025 21:17

I’ve survived only thanks to family and a sympathetic employer / staying in a job below my ability. If you don’t have family then the only option is probably to buy in help. If you have a spare room (or can create one) an au pair is the cheapest option.

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