Good morning, I’ve been in a very unhappy marriage for the last 5 years and my husband is a heavy drinker. We have a 4 yr old daughter and I finally found the courage to file for divorce 2 weeks ago. He has been violent and abusive in the past but is now on the charm offensive of being a changed man.
I feel so conflicted. The thought of losing time with my daughter is what’s kept me in the marriage for so long and he is adamant for 50/50 custody of a week on week off.
Courts do favour dads more than they used to and I’m struggling to accept my daughter will have a whole separate life from me and I’ll lose her for periods of time. How do you cope and accept this? I can’t stay this unhappy in a marriage with someone I don’t love- but I’m so anxious and depressed and splitting the family and losing part of my daughter. Can anyone offer advice on how you accept this? xx