Husband leaves house fir 12 plus hours

[Sarawicks]

Husband leaves house for 12+ says he's walking , he leaves house comes back next day in average once every 3 to 4 weeks he as a cocaine and alcohol problem, he's 54 I'm 52 , I'm the only one working whilst he's on college courses, he's out now , it's been 15 hours, I dint believe anything he says , I've had enough, should I just serve divorce papers anyone else done it this way

Yes. I would in your position. Where's his money coming from?

Of course you can divorce him.

What are the financial circumstances tho

• are you going to lose half the house because of him ?
• will he be awarded more than half as he doesn't work and needs a roof over his head etc
• whereas you are working and can support yourself better

He says he is out walking but is actually on a cocaine bender? Of course you should divorce him. This is not the life you deserve. Leave him to it.

He's just come in he says he's been out walking and lost his phone, told me not to be hard on him as he's had a bad day , he does not smell of alcohol or doesn't look like he's on drugs, I told him I don't believe you , yourfull of bullshit this isn't a marriage, I don't know where he's getting his money from , the house is in my name , I work part time , but can support myself, I want a divorce, do I just serve papers on him

He's just come in he says he's been out walking and lost his phone, told me not to be hard on him as he's had a bad day , he does not smell of alcohol or doesn't look like he's on drugs, I told him I don't believe you , yourfull of bullshit this isn't a marriage, I don't know where he's getting his money from , the house is in my name , I work part time , but can support myself, I want a divorce, do I just serve papers on him

Your house may very well be in your name but he may expect half of it in a divorce - it depends if you took action before you got married.

As you are working albeit part time he may well also want half your pension.

Yes you can serve divorce papers on him any time you like.

Have you spoken to a solicitor ?

have you read through the Gov website that takes you through all the stages ? - if you are living in the UK:

www.gov.uk/divorce/file-for-divorce

@Sarawicks go see a solicitor as you may end up having to pay him spousal and split assets. Get proper legal advice.

You can't save him. He's an addict and his addiction is his only thought. Addicts are selfish and determined. He will lie, manipulate and promise you the world knowing he won't be able to change.

You are absolutely right to leave him. He can't and won't make life changes while you are still there enabling him and giving him the soft cushion of a loving wife and home to come back to after his binges.

Don't believe a word he says. This man will have years of therapy and sober living ahead before he will be "changed".

Another woman ?

Play your cards close to your chest.
Information is power.

Go see a solicitor. Get the legals worked out in your head first.

Then look on line for divorce advice. Are you capable enough to do the paperwork yourself? The court staff can be very helpful.

When you feel fully informed, slap the paperwork on him.

He is taking the piss. Walk away.

You don't need his permission to start the divorce, but you may want to speak to a solicitor so you'll know how it's going to work.
Your house is a marital asset, so one of you will need to buy the other out, or sell it.

Get legal advice. Make an appointment to see a solicitor, do not tell him you're doing this.

Get together all the info/documentation you can regarding your financial situation, so earnings, debts, pensions, mortgage payments, basically all incoming and outgoings, and assets and debts.

The solicitor will be able to advise you of what you could expect from a divorce settlement, and the best way to proceed. You don't need your husband's agreement to do this.