Advice on baby dad

[heyhey24]

Hi
all I need some advice on my baby dad so lived with him on and off for 2 years had got pregnant and now have a 8 month old I’m now pregnant again with second

I am no longer with my baby’s dad but have very strong feelings for him even though he keeps going back to his ex that he has a child with

he doesn’t always text me and when he doesn’t and we don’t talk for days or a week I’m ok I think and feel all the bad things his done to me and made me feel but when he asked to meet me and how my son is i crumble and full back under his spell
I need advice in what to do

With soon to be two tiny children and and a useless sounding "man' in the background, I think you need to just concentrate on bringing the children up well and step right back from this bloke. Let him pay his maintenance for the children but don't get involved any more. Start thinking about how you are going to support the children in the future.

Is he married to this ex he keeps going back to?

Advice? What do you want anyone to say? You're not under a spell.He's not a magician. You've made a choice to have 2 children to him. Very close together
He was a conscious decision to not use contraception, not once, but twice

Just get rid of him and claim child maintenance. Maybe his wife will find out. Also, this shouldn't be posted in divorce separation.Because you were never married to him

Stay away from him. He loves his ex, not you. Sorry to be harsh but that’s how it is. You’re just someone he goes back to when he has a row with his ex.

Can I ask how far along you are? I would honestly consider termination if this guy is already a deadbeat dad to your 8 month old.

does his ex know you’re pregnant? I would tell her that you are, she may not know he’s still seeing you/ slept with you.

and as others have said, get an IUD as soon as you have termination or baby. And also get an STI test, I guarantee you and his ex aren’t the only ones he’s slept with, and you haven’t been using condoms I assume.

No his not married I tried to put under separation but didn’t let me thank you for your advice

@WondererWanderer this is divorce and separation thread so op can post here!

op I would suggest you post in relationships section as you’ll get more responses

honestly though yes you’ve been foolish getting pregnant again but don’t let that determine staying with this terrible man.

separate for good, no going back. Stop allowing yourself to be treated like shit. You’ll have two kids to raise so you need to get your act together

where are you living?
Will you work?
pit claim in for cms from him and arrange child access then don’t allow him in your life