Negotiations after financial consent order posted

[AlwaysThinkingForwards]

Hi. Has anyone any experience of ex challenging settlement after it was signed and posted - but before it was sealed. Or after sealing?

I know theoretically it’s an exception to open the case again based on specific points eg fraud

my stbx is upset, angry and irritable with mental health issues. He agreed and signed - but may threaten to undo everything later - especially if he spends all his money then realises he’s short.
he’s also after interim funds release as he’s run out, which my solicitor is advising against.

I feel stuck - so just wondered if anyone’s ex had tried and not got anywhere and I shouldn’t overly worry. Thanks 🙏🏻

Speak to your solicitor. May need a letter telling him to behave himself (my wording)

Would love to say that - but he’s bipolar and not listening. He has to buy a Porsche you see…instead of a flat. But also he now needs money to live on as he spent all the savings. And no one else will give him money. And he maxed out his limits and no earnings etc etc etc. I just need it over.

Is it too late to get him committed! Same again, you need to find out from solicitor or even the court whether he has any leverage.

He has capacity just desperate. I went away with signing as the risk is minimal as our agreement is overly fair.

I just wondered how often it happens. I’d hope the first solicitor he sees tells him there’s no point trying.

Turns out his anger today came from the cocaine he was taking 😭

Sorry for long post - just asking this l again as I’m sure it’s a common scenario. To clarify: we sold the family home and both moved into rented. All the equity is held by the conveyencing solicitor and we only released nominal funds each to live on in March.

We both have a good portion of the equity in the settlement (mine higher as he keeps pensions). We could release eg £100k each whilst waiting for the sealed order. It should go towards housing but he wants to buy a Porsche. His money and his decision.

we have a draft release statement my solicitor helped with saying this doesn’t change the financial agreement etc etc.

the risk is he spends the money, does something stupid and then comes back to renegotiate. Or the judge wants to alter the agreement (but I don’t think that would affect a £100k release).

I feel stuck - I’m getting shouted out every day for controlling access to his money so he can move on etc etc. I get the solicitors advice but now I wonder if I just give in. It’s no different to where spouses spend all their money in savings accounts during this time (it’s just he had no savings). Our agreement was based on the date we moved in March.

anyone had similar?

What is the timeline?

Do you have kids as well and I assume they are Iwith you (so you can’t block him)

I would just say we have to wait legally until it is finalised

I've got our daughter with me. I agreed today to release another £50k each but not enough he can buy an expensive car. What changed things is he saw another lawyer who advised him there was nothing he could do to force me to agree anything different. It's taken a little anger out of his sails...now just holding on for the final order to be sealed.