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My ex is suddenly trying to get a 50/50 custody agreement from me to allow him to apply for a council house. He never has the kids and I’m not going to write a fraudulent letter saying he does. My position is that if he wants to go to court for formal custody arrangements he needs to initiate that.
We have a financial agreement we both are happy with and need to fill out the D81 form but I note that there is a section on there asking where the children will live. I’m worried that he will put pressure on me to say 50/50 on here (despite him not having suitable accommodation at present) by refusing to sign it otherwise and then will use this for custody. I am trying to take the mortgage over and so need the consent order stuff done. Does anyone have experience of this where there is a financial agreement but suddenly a dispute over where the children live. Can anyone go live any advice?

Op just say no
and if he puts pressure on you, just say no

he has no power. He has no home and I’ll take a wild punt…. He has no job

He won’t have a job in a year, he has cash coming to him but also debts. But I’m worried this will hold up the consent order and therefore my mortgage. I don’t know how to complete it if we don’t agree on where it says the kids will live, despite it being a financial order.

so where is he living atm?

He’s in forces accommodation a single man room. But he’s loosing that soon when he leaves the army

did you and he own the family home?

Yes, but he’s agreed to me taking the house over so long as I don’t touch his pension

Do you work?
How much equity do you have in the property?

i Really don’t see that he holds any cards in this situation. He doesn’t have a home and he soon won’t have a job. How old is he?

Yeah I work. I’ve got enough equity to take the mortgage on but less than he would get in his lump sum when he leaves the army. His in his late 40s.

I suppose it’s hard to convey his personality but he’s quite abusive and controlling

I hope that you’ve involved solicitors and this isn’t something that has all been arranged between the pair of you OP