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Advice on where to settle with 2 yr old

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Summersglow · 02/07/2025 13:30

Hello, I'd like some advice from strangers as I am going round in circles with myself trying to figure out what to do in my current situation!

Long story short, partner of 6 years left me and 2year old earlier this year. Me and our child live in his property and we are unmarried.
My family live almost 20 miles away and so my support network where I currently am is limited and I also don't yet drive. Ex partner has suggested we can stay in his house which I thought would initially be a good idea - to avoid uprooting etc but am now finding it a little awkward as he's kind of become my landlord! He is always popping in when home from working away and I feel I'm not getting closure I need.
My problem is that the rental market is slim pickings at the moment and I'm band 4 for supported housing so feel a little 'stuck'. 8 have the option to live with parents temporarily but it's not something I had planned.
My child is due to attend nursery this autumn and I have 2 spaces secured, one in a nursery where my family are and one here where I currently am.
I'm really getting quite stressed about the whole thing and don't know what to do for the best. I feel quite lonely and isolated where I currently am now that I'm a single parent but it's a better area to live in.

Can anyone shed any advice or just some positivity to help me find my way?

Thank you

OP posts:
Beaniebobbins · 02/07/2025 21:54

It’s really hard isn’t it. And now you have to make all these big decisions on your own.

My suggestion would be to think about where you would like your life to be like to be in a few years time and then start making steps in that direction. Do you want to be nearer family? Do you want to be somewhere else? Do you want to be working, or changing jobs? Do you want to keep DC close to their dad or do you mind the longer journeys for pick ups?

mainly though just follow your gut and do what feels right for you. Everything has pros and cons. Also, nothing is forever (don’t we know that) so don’t worry too much about moving somewhere because you can always move on again if it doesn’t work out for you.

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