Pls help. I am going through a v difficult divorce with my stbx husband. I waited until my youngest was 18 as I knew it would be awful. The financial side has been horrendous but I am hopefully getting there now.
My kids do feel torn as they know how awful he has acted but they are slightly frightened to upset him too (just like me for so many years). He basically tells them when he wants to see them and without any thought to me, just ‘stay at your mum’s Friday cos I am out’ etc. he has a new woman and travels (for pleasure) a lot and I’m the boring stay at home one who just is always here. I love them being with me of course, but I just feel annoyed that he is still controlling me through them. What can I do?