My husband ended our relationship almost 5 months ago. He filed for divorce 10mins after yelling at me that he wanted a divorce in front of the kids. I received the email whilst I was sat in the staff room at work. He hadn't spoken to me about being unhappy, but was often grumpy. Anyway our 20 week cooling off period is up next week, the same weekend as our anniversary. I knew everything happened fast. He was telling me his dad was going to buy me a house and was following me around with a calculator the day after he broke up with me. But after months of blaming myself for his unhappiness (there's no other woman, he just blamed me), I was just reviewing the consent order his solicitor provisionally drafted up. I realised it was drafted and sent to me exactly one month after he ended our marriage and I was asked to sign it. I felt a sudden pang of sadness for myself back then, after months of hating myself. That was so quick to be handed a consent order to sign, I was still in shock and heavily grieving. I knew it was all fast and on his terms, but now I see just how fast he moved things along and feel so sad. No reason for this, but just to get it all down I guess. I can't imagine many women have been handed a consent order to sign just a month after their marriage broke down.