Me and my husband were married for 5 months before we separated, I left him because of abuse. In total we were only together for 2 years.
We have a child together, who he doesn’t see due to abuse and police involvement etc.
I haven’t had contact with him since May last year, (we married in January).
A Lot of people are telling me to get a divorce but I don’t know where to start! He doesn’t work, I do, I own a house etc. He doesn’t pay anything for his child etc. He never financially helped when we were together and he moved in with me previously to my old house (I’d bought before meeting him), and I have moved since we separated (again house only in my name etc).
He is 22 years older than me (I am 30) and was married once before me, his ex wife was traumatised by him (as I was) and she ended up spending thousands trying to divorce him he made it very difficult and tried to get lots of money out of her, they were married for about 10 years I think and she was the bread winner etc.
I really don’t want to spend another penny on this man (he got me into a lot of debt already) and give him the satisfaction of making me pay solicitors thousands when he will do things to increase the cost!
I have done a will which states where I want my money to go when I die (children).
My concern is how much does my will protect? Will he get my NHS pension because we are still married?
Part of me thinks just to stick it out and hope he croaks it before me, but knowing my luck I’ll get hit by a bus tomorrow after writing this! 😂
has anyone got any advice? Anyone been in this position?
also I am not eligible for legal aid 😢 as I earn to much! But also I should put out there I am in a lot of debt and cannot afford to have a legal battle with him
xx