my partner and I are in our mid 50s , when I met him 7 years ago he was separated from his wife and was living in nice rented accommodation , they have a house mortgage free and a business together . Amicable split and although nothing to do with me his family don’t include me in family gatherings . I am divorced and financially secure, I have a good job and earn an ok salary, when we met and throughout the years I would like to be in a relationship where marriage would be on the cards , he has always implied this would be the case, we bought a house together which is 50:50 owned , now we have been disagreeing on various things, and last night I mentioned I was unhappy he is still married and his response was ‘this is getting boring’ and that he couldn’t afford to get divorced and I said what if his wife instigated a divorce what then , his response that she wouldn’t get one , he also said the only person bothered about a divorce was me , I have brought this up as a point of difference which I am unhappy about previously but not been a nag about it feel really deceived and we are at the point of separating , I am torn as what to do as lately his disregard of my feelings in an attempt to appease others has really driven a wedge in our relationship