I want my marriage, but does he?

[Healingheart]

My husband left me on Mother's Day, which was also our 8 yr anniversary (together 8 married only 1.5 yrs) We have kids together. He never gave me a reason, just left after a MINOR argument. The days and weeks prior were fine. Nothing out the ordinary. A week later I find out he's been talking to a female for several weeks. He has not been home since Mother's day and has literally abandoned us, cut off all communication and barely asks to speak to the kids. The first couple weeks I was begging him to not do this to us. He refuses to have any communication. I don't understand how he could.do this to me and to our children. It is the hardest thing I've had to do. I know I should be mad or angry or whatever and I thought I'd be the woman to never tolerate such behavior. Yet all I want is my husband.

I guess my question is, is it possible for him to pop out of this or regret everything and try to get his family back??? I want my family. I want my husband. Am I delusional?

Why would you even want to take back this bag of shit!? He’s a man that abandons his family and cuts off all communication and has no interest in his children. Surely you have higher standards for yourself than this?

Walk away - this is no way to treat a woman especially the mother of your kids and on Mother’s Day too - it doesn’t get much lower than that. Walk away with pride and rebuild your life. These toxic men aren’t worth it. Trust me

Honestly, I can understand you missing him or grieving for your family but he’s a low life shit. It’s one thing to want to exit a marriage or relationship. But to simply walk out and cut off your kids is the lowest of the low. I hope at the very least he’s bloody paying for them

He’s shown you who he his. Now show him or you are - a resilient, strong, independent woman who puts her children first and who he doesn’t deserve. Move on with your life

file for divorce, start proceedings for financial settlement and cut your strings from this pathetic man.

Don’t beg, he’s shown his true colours. What a particularly horrible date to leave.
you will find happiness without him.

There is always the possibility he’ll pop out the other end and realise what he’s missing. But, and it’s a big but, he’ll only do it because he’s realised the grass is t greener or it’s not worked out with the ow for whatever reason, which puts you and your dc firmly in the second best category. You’d be far better off learning to love being on your own, helping the dc navigate like fe with a wanker of a father and enjoying life without a selfish wanker.

It's not wrong to want back the relationship you thought you had - but unfortunately it seems that the person you thought you were married to doesn't really exist. By all means grieve what you thought you had, but you have to deal with the reality of someone who has treated you and your kids with real cruelty.