Abusive ex threatening court...help please

[Exhausted49]

I've had an email today from my ex solicitor saying because I am refusing to let him see his kids and have been for a year he's taking me to court.
He's an abusive narcissist. We agreed I could stay in his house with the children when we split last June, during which time his behaviour was abhorrent and he saw the kids whenever he could be bothered. I had enough of the abuse and with some help found a new home with the kids in Feb this year. From then I insisted we use solicitors to communicate as I couldn't take the abuse. We offered him time with the children but he refused as he wanted more. So he has gone months not seeing them because he wasn't getting what he asked for, I hoped he would use the time then extend it.
So I'm here now with a threat of court action based on lies and I'm so fed up and depressed. I've given my all to start building a new life and all he wants is to destroy me and any happiness we have. I'm lost

Do you have emails or texts proving that he was offered contact? If so, I’d send those. Keep a paper trail and it’ll make it harder for him to lie…

Let him take you to court then? Do you think he really will? Or do you think he's just saying that to try to manipulate you?

As a pp said, keep all documentary evidence.

Get a co-parenting app and communicate through that. Send screenshots of all the times you have offered contact and he refused, didn't turn up etc. it will take a year or more most likely to get to court, will he really bother ?

Your solicitor will have evidence of the offers of time with his children. He turned them down. That is on him.

Let him take you to court. My guess is he either wants 50:50 which he is entitled to ask a court to grant, or he wanted to visit his children in the house you were living in (which he owned) so he could intrude on your life and extend his control. Now he doesn't have that hold over you, he is lashing out.

Go to court, explain that you offered access but he refused. Then leave him to explain to the court why he abandoned his children.

You've done what you can, he will always push and try. Our job is to be more resilient... harder said than done. And to lead our kids on our time. Do yiu best to ignore his drama.
I would recommend LegallyNik on instagram, she gives great advice.
You should then have the evidence that time was offered so don't worry. Gather all evidence of his abuse and refusal to see his kids and just have it organised abd ready. He may never go to court, or he could go in a year and will play out that he is a victim. If you organise your evidence now and slowly add to it as time goes on then you will be organised and the emotional impact of being taken to court won't make you flap while you try to pull it all together (my experience)..document everything.

And if he takes you to court the precedent has been you as the main carer, share that. What you do for the kids, what does he do and what you both did prior to the breakdown of the relationship. Keep referring back to what the kids want and need, what is best for them.

You can do it. Could be an empty threat, he'll keep doing that as a sign he is losing control over you. So well done for getting rid!