Cheating ex, divorce and asd children.

[Mrspinknails]

Posted in this thread as seems more relevant than relationships.

Ive posted many many times about my cheating ex of 27 years. The lies, gaslighting calling me mad, weird, paranoid, making me change meds before catching them both red handed.
i filed for divorce the next day after catching him. Hes been awful to me via text. Throwing things up from years ago , having digs at me. I wouldn't mind but jt was him who did the bad shit..not me.
Im.still waiting in the 6 month cooling off period and can apply for my conditional offer in a few weeks.
He is still with the ow who also had children. Im always shocked thwt another woman can do thiw knowing there are children involved.
My children are still getting counselling. I've been diagnosed with ptsd and waiting for edmr.
I just need to know there is light at the end of the tunnel and I'll find happiness again. My youngest has chicken pox and is so ill. Ive not slept at all which makes me feel so much worse.

It gets better. Much better. And actually now that his sorry arse is someone else’s problem, you are actually over the worst bit. V sorry about your poorly child. I hear a big dose of piriton helps with itching and also may help them (and you) sleep.

It gets better, once you let all of the anger and pain out. It took me two years to truly feel over it (also long and abusive marriage), but I honestly say that , three years on, I hardly think about him now unless I see an old photo.

It bloody hurt at the time. Ptsd, the works. But it does get better .

Oh, and grey rock for now. Email only, not text. Get control of your phone and social media etc, so block him and all his friends. That made a huge difference to me. He cannot abuse you any more. You need control and power here.

Thanks for the replies. Really struggling for some reason again. Seems to come in waves

That's normal, it's the ptsd. As it was explained to me, you have to let it out, otherwise it builds up amd festers inside you. It's just agony though.

I was literally stuck on my knees on the floor in waitrose one morning. By the magazines. I couldn't move.

Another time, I threw up on a verge on my way to work. It just hit me.

I phoned the samaritans three times, because I couldn't breath. I'd never had a panic attack in my life until then.

Does this sound familiar? I'm rooting for you, because I promise it gets better.

Yeah I had a panic attack when I saw a particular item someone was holding when on my way to counselling. It wqs the same item he was holding when I caught him
I just sont know how someone can switch from q normal husband having sex with me..telling me he loved me to cheating, and now not even caring if I live or die.