Been married 29 years soon. Have 3 DC twins 21 and DD 23
For the last few years DH has been an arse. I have tolerated him to keep things stable for the kids. I am constantly walking on eggshells and questioning myself whether our relationship is normal or in my head.
We have credit card debt of £16k (i embarrassingly dont know whether the card is in my name or his) - he doesn't care about this debt and makes no effort to reduce it
We have a mortgage (but i dont know how much we still owe or how long we have left to pay. I'm fairly certain we have a good bit of equity in our house.
How do i start to make a plan for an exit strategy?
I am scared