Eager to hit the final order button!

[peaceandhappiness]

What are the disadvantages of hitting the final order button before sorting financial order clean break?

I’d rather get legally divorced so I can move forward with my life for my own peace happiness and mental health. Plus I no longer want that awful person to be my spouse for a minute longer nor do I want to be theirs.

My stbx and I have nothing to divide and it was a relative short marriage with no children involved! (Thankfully or we would be tied for life) so not complicated or messy on that front.

I want NOTHING whatsoever from stbx and and will sort clean break out but I already know that’ll take probably a year as it’ll end up going to court due to the abuse at the hands of stbx and there is no contact between us. Plus I need to save funds for this.

Is it wrong if I hit that final order button as I can’t stand the thought of my stbx having automatic spousal rights to any pension inheritance I may receive etc if I were to die tomorrow. (Hopefully I don’t!)

Once again I couldn’t care less if stbx were to drop tomorrow and I wouldn’t have same entitlements as a spouse I really don’t care about that. It’s not about money or greed to me just a peaceful life 😊

Thoughts please x

NB - I am aware claims can be made at any stage after divorce final and I will get financial order after divorce final. Our circumstances are not of those that need financial order asap!

Anyone ?

if you split without the financial agreement... he can claim half your wealth at some random point in future time of his choosing, he can hold you for ransom over it. Do you want that?

@lljkkif you note from my post I’m already aware of this and I’ll sort financial order after finalized divorce for my own sanity. I just want to know other than losing automatic spousal rights in event of death to pension and inheritance are there ANY OTHER disadvantages of final order first, financial order after?

Hi I’m a family Solicitor with 18 years of experience. I normally say to my clients to hold out for the financial order to be sealed, and in your case if it turns out that he did have some assets/pension that you would have been entitled to and then he dies, you could lose out. But if no assets at all (and you definitely don’t want anything) then go for it! [Disclaimer - informal legal advice and very fact specific!]

@Arcadia1 million % I want nothing just peace and happiness plus after such a short childless marriage doubt either of us has a claim and no doubt judge would say walk away with what you entered with right?

I'm in the same position, I have a tiny pension that I only started paying in to after we split, we came into the marriage with nothing and we both leave with nothing. Our children are all adults now. I paid for the divorce and I'll probably have to pay for a solicitor to draft a consent order because he won't. If I was to win the lottery next week or inherit (which is highly unlikely) I'd be dammed if he got a penny after 10 years of no child maintenance.

@Icecreamhelps sorry to hear that. I think they’re only entitled to pension contributions accrued during marriage anyway? @Arcadiacan you confirm?

if you win lottery you certainly wouldn’t go broadcasting it anyhow! I’m not sure about inheritance?

My ex has previously threatened to come after me as they assume I’m beneficiary on mums will being only child so they’ll get half of what they think I’ll inherit! But mums clever! And not even poorly. Not even dying! The greed of some people. Ex said they wouldn’t engage in any financial proceedings due to this opportunity for them in future! Hence why I don’t know how to deal with this going to court. Do you know how the courts can enforce it? Ex lives abroad and said already they’ll refuse and ignore any contact from solicitors/courts and UK courts can’t force someone outside of UK to do anything - is this true? See how I’m stuck trying to get clean break for protection 😞

I'm not sure unfortunately, so you definitely need legal advice. He certainly shouldn't be able to hold out for potential inheritance from your mother! If you proceed and file your financial information then leave it to the courts to make him share his if he doesn't there must be a process to protect you.

if you win lottery you certainly wouldn’t go broadcasting it anyhow! I’m not sure about inheritance?
If he starts the process and you don't make full disclosure at this point, you'd be in breach of the court process and couldget in big trouble.

He is in fact she! I’m the male party FYI. Well she would also have to disclose her 2 properties and savings wouldn’t she. She has more assets than me. I’m not interested in any of it as I don’t care if I’m entitled to it, I think it’s about doing what’s morally right. I don’t want a share of anything that’s hers as it wasn’t accrued during our short stint of a marriage.