I have been with my wife for 18 years, married for 16. We have 3 boys 7,14,17. I have made mistakes over time that she says are impacting her now. Catching me with pot a couple times and 8 years ago I sent FB message to a girl I worked with that was really inappropriate. She was pregnant at the time and I was at the end of a 2 year stint of severe alcoholism. That has been th only time that I have ever done anything like that. Never, ever anything physical or emotional. We were going through a tough time and I had a weak moment. Now she says that all of this is catching up to her and she should have addresses it better when this stuff happened. We have been a picture perfect couple for so long, it took me by surprise. She is now saying she is not in love with me anymore and she is thinking about separating. It's destroying me. She would rather not sleep in the same bed. We don't do anything together really. No I love yous. No kisses. Occasional hug when she feels I need one. She does feel terrible to put me through this but she can't help how she feels. There is more but I feel this is a good jump off point if anyone has some advice on how to cope with this. So much stress and anxiety. She is going to therapy so she is putting in the work. I know she just doesn't want to do anything she will regret. I tried therapy but it doesn't seem to help