Can’t get over my husband leaving

[malazzie]

i asked my husband to leave on 1st November. The relationship had become really toxic. We have been married for 12 years but together for 23. 3/4 months later he got a new girlfriend and posted it on social media. I see them driving around together with her sat in my old seat. He got someone to tell me she was “like a porn star” in the bedroom (he said I was rubbish, to be fair I was) she met some of his friends and wives this week. I’m heartbroken. I want him back. I feel so rejected and horrible. I just want to curl up and die. I regularly feel suicidal but we have two children and I would never leave them without a mum. I’m a good mum. I have a good job but lately I’ve been drinking a lot and I’m struggling. When does this get easier?
Ive told him I want him back and I’ll move heaven and earth to make it work but he won’t.

What is it from that relationship that you miss or need?

Oh OP, I am so sorry you are struggling.
He is an utter wanker of a tw*t if you pardon my French to say such things.

Can you take a few days off and change your environment? Go visit friends or a place you like? There is more to life than this, you deserve better and it can get better if you focus on you. Please, please, please don't let yourself spiral further, if the sorrow is too much, take steps to get help, best to you OP

You ended it for a reason OP, what’s changed? Can you see the GP regarding your mental health?

I’m sorry you’re struggling OP- it will start to get easier when you accept he’s not coming back. Remember you ended it for a reason and seek some therapy for yourself x

The fact that he sends messengers to report such tasteless crass comments on another woman tells me everything I need to know to KNOW FOR SURE that you’re better off without him. He sees women as pieces of meat, he’s immature and petty and nasty.
You’ve been so brave asking him to leave, don’t go back now. This time is the worst but it won’t last forever, and once you’re better you’ll realise one day that you’re happy and you’ll wonder how you put up with such a horrible little loser for so long. You’ve got this.

Why would you want him back - you say yourself the relationship was toxic
why would you want to be part of a toxic relationship again.

you are free, you are free of this toxic relationship.

remove the social media.

November was 6 months ago, how is the divorce progressing ?

It sounds to me like you just need other things to think about. You sitting at home and pining for his return is probably giving him no end of pleasure - wow, he's got TWO WOMEN who want him so badly! What a stud! Six months is not a long time to get over a long relationship, but get over it you need to. Find one thing that makes you happy and concentrate on that; forget your tosspot ex and look forward to your new life without him.

Why did you ask him to leave? Remind yourself of that and ask yourself why you want him back.

Ive told him I want him back and I’ll move heaven and earth to make it work but he won’t.
Stop this begging. This is going to come out blunt because I accidentally posted and am trying to update, sorry. Right now, he has got little miss pornstar all over him and you in his back pocket in case it goes wrong. No one wants desperate, crying, weeping and offering the world on a stick. Be strong, be yourself, and if he comes back, the option is yours as to whether to accept him. But not sure why you would if it was as toxic as you say.

OP
This is just a moment in time.
You are struggling with being single and seeing him move on so quickly.
You won't feel like this forever, it's just a shitty moment in time. Let it pass so you can move on to a better one.

It’s absolute insanity. I can’t pull myself out of this hole.

He got someone to tell me she was “like a porn star” in the bedroom

What? Plastic tits and faking orgasms?