I'm sat in a soft play area crying

[Ellywoo1]

My husband of 33+ years has informed me he wants a divorce. I forgave him of an affair 12 yrs ago but have recently been told (no proof) that he has had another something he is denying.
He has said he isn't happy and has begun divorce proceedings using the no fault reasoning.
We have 2 grown up children and 2 grandchildren. I am at soft play with them crying.....I just can't stop 24hrs of crying.
I'm having night migraines and feel stupid, useless and sadder than ever
He has said he needs 6MTHS of us living under the same roof to afford to leave. I don't think I can cope with this.
Will there ever be light at the end of this very dark tunnel 😭😭😭😭

How have you failed? He's the one that failed at being married with his infidelity.

Forgiving once isn't idiotic, it's giving it your absolute best shot for your family.

You won't make the mistake a third time, so ... time to let him go!

Just dropping in to say, him failing you twice makes him the a-hole, and does not make you an idiot. Hold your head high.

If you don't want him to stick around for 6 months then tell him so. He can't have it both ways.

I thought you were at least well into your 60s from your OP! But you are only 51! 52 is a fabulous age to start a new phase of life (I am 52).

Your H is an absolute rat. Good riddance.

Hi OP
I'm so sorry to read this. My ex split up with me a few months ago and also thought we could live together for 6 months until I was able to move into a house I rent out (it has tenants in there currently). I found it absolutely unbearable. He turned nasty as well and I have no idea how he thought we could live together for all that time. I was heartbroken at losing him, our lovely life together, our home, a friendship group and his family, and he didn't seem to care.

I was so desperate that I was going to move out for 6 months but eventually he left temporarily and will be moving back in when I leave. I would say that you should ask your "D"H to leave now as it's not fair to spring this on you and expect you to carry on living with him while he gets his financial situation sorted out. Moving out temporarily is the only decent thing that my ex has done over the last 9 months and I would hope that, if your "D"H has any decency left, he would agree to doing the same.

So sorry, OP.

I divorced a cheating git in my early fifties after a long marriage. Now pushing 60 and have just married a wonderful man. It won't seem like it now but there will be light at the end of the tunnel x

Pause a minute OP and just breathe. You’ve been dealt a massive shock and you just need time to process.

Short term, start as you mean to go on, cook the food you love and only for you, move into separate rooms, treat yourself to some things that reclaim the space. Get a lock for your door if it’ll make it feel like a safer space.

longer term, give yourself time to grieve. Lean on friends and family, look at a plan b and c (d,e etc until you find the one that fits). Work towards that plan with baby steps.