Post Divorce Abuse - Step Mother To Be Contacting DD at her school in middle of exams

[BigBird100]

My DD is in the middle of her A levels at the moment. My XH's finance wrote to her at home, and at her London Day School, that she and XH are getting married. DD went no contact with XH after 16 as he weaponised the family court to try to force DD to live with him despite never having paid her school fees, maintenance or previously wanted her to live with XH in his 1 bedroom flat. XH's sudden interest in being a "dad" was triggered by my re-marriage. DD and my husband are close and she uses his surname.

XH has form as a stalker. He bombarded me with letters and parcels in the middle of the night, filmed me when I was with my DH, secretly filmed DD in the evenings during the family court proceedings and did other things that are too awful to mention.

Does anybody know if DD writes a letter to the step-mother to be to stop contacting her and especially at school, if she has legal standing even if DD is not yet 18? The letter deeply upset DD as she knows XH has form as a stalker and now the future step mother is taking on this role of harasser and stalker?

I'd go through a solicitor if I were you. Your poor Dd.

Police - and ask the school to intercept and return any further communication

@JohnofWessex do you think the police will treat her seriously?

@Coffeeishot my legal fees from being dragged through Family Court was over £200k. I have no more money left for legal fees.

Oh lovey I'm sorry can you maybe get the school to intervene if letters arrive, you know it is OK for your dd to ignore them, but if it becomes worse go to the police.

You can but try

Talk to safeguarding lead at school, school should be a safe space so they should offer support.
I wouldn't respond, give them nothing as it will fuel them leave them guessing whether the letter got to her or not.
Log with the police, incase this becomes a pattern. If you went to the police about their antics previously it will help show a pattern also.
Log everything everything wjth the police as it is likely as she turns 18 this could increase again.