On Sunday I told my boyfriend of 10 years that I want to end the relationship. We have 2 children in primary school. He doesn’t want to separate but has agreed and validated all my reasons for wanting to move out.
He admits to not being a present father and said I’m 100% right in what I’m saying.
He said he wants me to stay and work through it, but I’ve heard this before.
I stayed previous and he went back to his normal self.
I don’t know what to do.
I need to be strong and continue the process of leaving (I have my own house which is currently rented) and healing but he’s using me as an emotional crutch and I’m feeling extremely guilty (which is why I stayed last time - about 2 years ago).
I’m sleeping in the spare room.
Last night he text me saying he wanted to talk, I replied I was going to bed (22:30) he came into my room saying he wanted to talk…..Even now when I need space and for him to respect me, he is doing whatever he wants! I pointed this out and he agreed. He admitted he needs to grow up and work through his stuff. He’s considering Counselling (which he has always said no to).
I honestly believe he doesn’t really know what respect and boundaries are. I’m considering moving to my parents for now, the travel to/from work/school run would be an additional 30 minutes which isn’t horrendous.